Why do the women at my church try to make me feel dumb at bible study, and act snotty? what should i do?

i just started going to church and i really do not know that much about the bible yet, the women in my group make me feel stupid and try to ask me things they know i dont know yet infront of everyone. they act very snotty and i joined the church because i thought it would be the opposite of this going on... what should i do, should i just stick it out

Why do the women at my church try to make me feel dumb at bible study, and act snotty? what should i do?
First, everybody starts off exactly where you are. No one is born with an intimate knowledge of God or the bible. Just as the bible says, "knowledge puff up but love builds up". It would seem you find yourself in a group of people who know more than what they do or that they apply. This is sad . although it's not very common, you seem to have found some that typify the first part of this verse. I would recommend you find a church that not only believes and understands but also does. You may want to talk to the pastor before you leave to another church, inform him of your experience. I'm confident this is not a behavior that will be encouraged or desired and this will give him an opportunity to deal straightforwardly with this issue.


That is just bad and not a good way to welcome a new person...or anyone for that matter. Believe me, all study groups are not like that. Find a church or study group that is Bible-based as well as welcoming and friendly. That shouldn't be hard to find. That's really sad. You should not have to endure this...so no, don't stick it out.
Reply:You should ignore the bible and find God on your own terms. The bible was written by mortal men and has no reflect on what God wants. If God really wanted us all to gather in his name and praise him that would make God arrogant. God is perfect and he does not need mortal man to interpret his thoughts. God will give you the signs you need to see past the man made world and see his true intent. My name is Richard Dunn and you can E-mail me at eightballbreak420@yahoo.com if you agree with with my beliefs.
Reply:Try not to let it get to you


church shouldn't be all about the bible


it's about sharing with others your relationship with God and Jesus. The bible is like an instruction manual for life, it's not ment to be memorized and to be analyzed to the extreme. Its important, but not the basis of religon. Most will disagree, but think Jesus is the basis and I still keep in mind that the bible was written by man. It's a great guide and I try to follow the examples told, but it's not what I am all about.


ps: by all means don't change churches, leaving doesn't solve anything. a church needs to help each other grow, just leaving is like giving up.
Reply:Sounds like you need to find a church that practices the Christian values they propose to believe in.
Reply:This is exactly what turned me off on organized religion; people trying to "out-church" each other. It is a shame when the same nasty behavior in the outside world must invade the house of God.





Either:





A) Switch Churches.


B) Don't talk to these people, you could be just plain about it and ask "Why are you asking me this?"
Reply:No don't stick it out. Go somewhere else, check out another church. At least definitely quit the Bible Study group, and don't give the snotty ones an explanation of why. You might continue liking the church service itself, but why upset yourself breaking into their little clique.


I find that helping out at the church is good. Doing things that make a difference without having an organized group. Women are very difficult in churches; read what Paul has to say in his letters. So don't forsake religion because of bitchywomen.
Reply:That's just awful. I am sure God is NOT pleased with that kind of holier than thou behavior. You might need to find another church. There are pleanty of other churches that do show the compasionate love of God.
Reply:I guess you have to find another church ..sometimes some of the worst people are actually the ones who preach the love of God and attend faithfully mass.
Reply:Even the best churches will always have those perfect women, who know the bible, have the perfect husband, tons of perfect kids, and just think life is perfect.





I'm Catholic, and I love my faith, but I too sometimes feel sad when I feel I have to put on an act and be the perfect Catholic mom.





Change churches, or see if there is a beginners bible study group you can join.
Reply:Is there someone at the church you can speak to confidentially... I mean other than the minister/pastor? It would be great if you could speak especially to one of the ladies, and explain how you are feeling. She should understand and help communicate to the other ladies that you are feeling uncomfortable and that they should ease-off on the "Third-degree" in front of everyone.





If this does not help, then go to the minister to discuss it.





If neither of these help, it may be time to find a more friendly church. This sort of "personality conflict" does happen sometimes, it's a shame... but it does happen.








Have a polite day.
Reply:First of all i feel church and bible study are there to lift you up, not tear you down. These women are not true christians if they are doing this to you. I would find a new church, but before you do , be sure to let them know your reasons. Until you find a nice church, there are many wonderful websites out there that inspire. I'm not comfortable in crowds, so this is where i go. good luck and godbless.
Reply:try to find a new church or bilble study group. Christans should not be acting like this, and you do not want to be learning the bible for these women. Find a different group and you will be surprised how much fun you will have with learning about the bible